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Saying Good-Bye to Charlie: A Letter From Peggy

Dear PYE Community,

I am writing with the sad news that Charlie Murphy, our dear friend and leader of PYE, passed away peacefully at the turn of midnight on August 6. As many of you know, Charlie had been living with ALS for the past two years. He died as he lived with humor and grace and surrounded by the love of friends and family, especially his dear husband Eric Mulholland.

Charlie Murphy with two students from School of Inspired Leadership in India

Charlie Murphy with two students from School of Inspired Leadership in India

Charlie’s and Eric’s journey with ALS was made easier by the many of you who generously donated to the Charlie Murphy Healing Fund; helped with food, gardening, housekeeping, nursing, and everything else you could think of; and participated in the series of events celebrating Charlie. Every one of those events lifted his spirits. Thank you so much.

Eric and a close circle of friends and family tended to Charlie’s needs in his final days. One of his last wishes was to have a house concert with his favorite musician, Krista Detor. Krista flew from Indiana on Friday morning and performed a gentle concert for Charlie and a small group of friends that evening. Soon after the concert, when the house became quiet, Charlie settled down. He fell into a very peaceful state, and took his last breath cradled in the arms of his beloved Eric. When Charlie was first diagnosed with ALS, he said to Eric, “We will make this beautiful.” And they did.

I met Charlie 21 years ago, and immediately knew we were destined to be creative partners. When we ran our first Power of Hope Camp a year later, we knew we were in this for life, and I had the pleasure of working side by side with him all of these years. I have also had the pleasure of seeing so many of you jump in, and expand the seed that was the first Power of Hope Camp into a robust body of work that we can all take forward. This would not have happened without you. I loved Charlie from the start, but I can honestly say, my love and admiration rooted even more deeply as the years progressed. He was truly a unique, magnificent, and deeply gifted and loving man, and I miss him beyond words.

In Charlie’s final months and weeks, two things brought him great delight: spending time with his beloved Eric and hearing news of all of the great work you are doing in the world spreading creativity, kindness, and empowerment. Gwyn Wansbrough, our European Executive Director, arrived on Whidbey Island just six days before he died. For several hours, she sat at his bedside and updated him on all of your doings. When she’d ask him, “Do you want to hear more?”, he would get that crinkle of a smile and shake his head “Yes. Yes.”

Charlie died on the evening of the last day of our 20th anniversary Power of Hope Camp on Whidbey Island. The staff from the camp was partying at a home in Langley, a few miles from Charlie and Eric’s house. As midnight approached they began to sing through all of the songs they had sung during the week. At midnight, as Charlie passed, they happened to be singing a song called, “Now I Walk in Beauty.”

Charlie Murphy, you walked in beauty throughout your life. You touched so many hearts, you changed so many lives, and I, for one, intend to carry your legacy forward with my full heart.

Blessings to all of you,

Peggy Taylor, Co-founder PYE Global

We are holding a memorial celebration for Charlie on Thursday, September 1, at the Whidbey Institute on Whidbey Island, the birthplace of Power of Hope and PYE. The memorial will take place at 6 p.m., but plan to arrive very early. There will be creative activities and opportunities to spend time with friends starting at noon. We will send more information in a few days about food, accommodations, and parking. If you can’t join us on Whidbey, remember Charlie’s maxim, “The people who do good work throw the best parties!” Sing a song, light a candle, or raise a glass in celebration of our dear friend and colleague Charlie Murphy.

Using Creativity to Empower

Charlie Murphy, musician and youth mentor, died on August 6, 2016, aged 63

“As we do this work, in various parts of the world, I see a common question that connects all the youth – at its essence it is ‘How do I live a life that makes sense?’”
— Charlie Murphy

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Charlie Murphy’s life began making sense after experiencing a transformative summer camp as an adolescent. Although he didn’t remember how he discovered Camp Claggett, led by a group of adults involved in the human potential movement, the experience set Charlie on a path that would ultimately impact hundreds of thousands of youth all over the globe.

Facilitating Change

The summer experience turned him on to the power of groups and the creative processes that can build communities. He began studying sociology at Loyola University in Baltimore. Charlie spent his summers working as a camp counselor and studied group facilitation at the Center for mid-Atlantic Trainers; he became their youngest facilitator.

After college, Charlie worked for a time in youth mental health services. Disillusioned with being asked to help young people adapt to a world in turmoil rather than empower them to improve it, he decided to make change through his other passion: music.

Living Creatively

Touring the country as a folk singer, Charlie sang openly about gay rights and feminism. He appeared on the landmark 1979 album “Walls to Roses” featuring both gay and straight men who supported the struggle against sexism.

In the late 80s Charlie teamed up with cellist Jami Sieber to form Rumors of the Big Wave. His AIDS anthem, “I Choose Life”, landed the band a spot as featured artists on a Barbara Walters special commemorating the 20th anniversary of the AIDS crisis.

Playing with notable artists like Ziggy Marley, Ann and Nancy Wilson of Heart, and Midnight Oil, Rumors of the Big Wave toured nationally and internationally and produced several award-winning albums. “Burning Times,” one of Charlie’s best-known songs, became an anthem of the women’s movement; the band performed it at the LGBT March on Washington in 1993. Irish folk rocker Christy Moore later covered the song on his 2005 album of the same name, and it ultimately climbed to #3 on the Irish pop charts.

Converging Streams

Throughout his music career, Charlie never lost his desire to empower youth. Eventually he decided to combine these passions, bringing the arts and creative expression into experiential education, facilitation, and youth work.

In 1996, Charlie met Peggy Taylor, a journalist who would become his creative partner for the rest of his life. Together they ran their first camp, calling it Power of Hope. Their method of integrating the arts into youth development, which would they would eventually call the Creative Community Model™, quickly caught fire and began to spark a transformation in youth work. In 2005, Charlie was awarded an Ashoka Fellowship in recognition of his lifelong achievements as a change maker and for his groundbreaking work in the youth development field.

In 2006, Charlie and his husband Eric Mulholland, a theater artist, began co-leading youth programs and conducting practitioner trainings in Uganda, South Africa, Italy, and the UK. To further grow the international work, in 2009 Charlie teamed with Peggy and UK-based entrepreneur Ian Watson to found PYE Global: Partners for Youth Empowerment. Focusing on providing Creative Community Model training to youth-serving organizations, together they developed an international network of PYE partners and facilitators. With 30 partners in 15 countries, PYE has empowered more than one million youth to date.

A Lasting Impact

Charlie’s true impact with both community building and personal development can perhaps be most clearly seen in the words of the trainers and facilitators he has mentored. Here are just two examples of many:

“Charlie had a way of gathering people together with natural ease and grace.”
 
“Charlie Murphy came into my life at exactly the right moment, to help me re-find my heart’s wellbeing through self-expression and service to young people.”

Charlie’s legacy is one of using creativity to transform groups into communities, helping people make just a bit more sense out of their lives.

Creative Community Tip: Simply Listen

A moment of listening at Athens Training

A moment of listening at an Athens Training (Photo credit: Themis Gkion – flowathens.com)

Giving advice is so much fun! It makes us feel so good—smart, helpful, and insightful. But consider the drawbacks. When we pile on advice, to a young person we’re working with or a family member or friend in need, we might be depriving them of their ability to look within and find their own answers. On the other side of the coin, when we endlessly seek advice, we can find ourselves flailing around in the swirl of opinions. Whether you work with young people or just want to be a better friend, this practice from the world of life coaching can set you on a new track.

Take ten minutes to practice deep listening with one another. Each person speaks about something they care about for five minutes with no interruption. Their partner simply listens without saying a word—no questions, no comments—only listening. Then you switch places, and the speaker becomes the listener.

“This is so hard,” reported a participant in one of our trainings. “I wanted to ask questions so I really understood. But, surprise, surprise, I realized my questions would have taken her in a completely different direction in the conversation. I would have actually hijacked her train of thought.” For some people, it’s hard to even know what to say once they have someone truly listening, but they get the hang of it quite quickly.

“In just five minutes I was able to work out a problem that had been niggling at me all week,” reported another participant. “Once I realized I wouldn’t be interrupted, I relaxed and my thoughts started to flow.” Through practicing the 10-minute listening activity, you’ll likely become far more aware of the power of “simply listen.” In the process, you’ll become a more attuned facilitator and more supportive friend.

In the News: The Power of Creative Expression

“Youth Actors Chronicle a Struggle to Heal in ‘The Sandy Monologues'”

From 'The Sandy Monologues' (Falconworks Artists Group / Facebook)

From ‘The Sandy Monologues’ (Falconworks Artists Group / Facebook)

We loved this NPR story. The arts helped youth, and an entire diverse community, heal and unite in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. They used theater as a tool for reckoning with the harsh inequity of disaster response. Creative expression also built bridges between previously disconnected neighbors. Click here to listen.

Our arts-rich Creative Community Model uses creative expression to promote similar healing in traumatized populations. See stories of PYE’s model at work with refugee youth in Greece to First Nations communities in BC Canada.

On the Ground in Greece: A PYE Facilitator’s Personal Account

 by PYE Facilitator Ed Wade-Martins 

Ed Wade-Martin (right) with an ELIX facilitator and participant in PYE's practitioner training in Athens, July 2016 (Photo credit: Themis Gkion - flowathens.com)

Ed Wade-Martins (right) with a participant in PYE practitioner training with ELIX in Athens, July 2016 (Photo credit: Themis Gkion, flowathens.com)

ELIX praise for Ed and GaniBeing a part of our collaboration with ELIX on developing projects working with refugee children this summer had a huge impact on me. It’s strange to be back home under the blandness of grey English skies knowing that the Greek summer school is now well underway. The children are picked up from their camps and brought to a lovely little primary school not far away. They gather in a circle and sing together, play games and get to know what it feels like to be in a new kind of learning community. Each day they have classes and workshops learning Greek and English; they explore the creative realms of art, music and theatre and play sports in the playground.

It was enormously profound to see the children’s excitement and joy to be coming to school. Seeing the tentative gratitude of their mothers and fathers sitting on a bench in the playground watching their children play was almost heart breaking. Hearing the children’s stories of what they had been through I knew could be almost too much to bare. These people have lost everything including family and friends and now are homeless in a foreign land. Perhaps they’ll stay. They so want their children to go to school to learn so they can create a better world for themselves.

The project in Athens took place on many levels. We first met the fantastic team from ELIX, a charity that has organized volunteers from all over Europe to run positive projects for the last 30 years. They were so inspiring and they were also inspired by what we had to offer. It was a deep meeting of souls and we were excited by what was possible through collaborating.

We began by leading a 2-day Creative Facilitation training for the newly enrolled facilitators and teachers for the summer school. They soaked up the whole process, excited to be learning new techniques. They also met with their own creative edges exploring this journey in relation to themselves and their work. Afterwards they commented on how they felt like such a strong team and couldn’t believe they had only known each other for just a few days.

Together with the core team from ELIX we then designed the structures and a daily flow for the upcoming summer school. We set up teams to teach classes together and dreamt up workshops for them to deliver. We created goals and agreements for the creative communities they would be supporting and the team began to feel ready and prepared to begin the school.

That first morning was chaos. Meeting the children and families at the refugee camps and the process of registering the children hinted at the chaos and hardships that their community was dealing with everyday. We worked with translators in English, Greek, Farsi and Arabic as we gathered the children who themselves had travelled from Syria, Afghanistan, Iraq, and Somalia to reach safety. The screams of joy when they finally arrived at school after walking through the heat that first morning made the whole initial process worthwhile. They dived onto the tables of art materials to create colorful name badges and greeted our team of eager helpers with smiles. We knew that something fantastic was beginning.

There were all sorts of challenges during the first two days, but the team stayed positive and flexible, and was able to hold a safe container to overcome the initial problems. We supported the staff in debriefing the initial phase and left knowing that those kids are in good hands and that they will have the most fantastic summer held in a loving learning environment.

At this time, this work is the healing that is needed in our communities. Crossing boundaries of language, culture and religion, children were being allowed to be children once again. These people are innocent victims of someone else’s war and their children seek the love and embrace that we hope for our own children. We cannot ever underestimate the power and importance of this work to heal the wounds that we carry inside.

 

Building Community at the Heart of the Refugee Crisis

Gani Naylor with refugee youth at ELIX camp

PYE Facilitator Gani Naylor with refugee children and volunteers, at the pilot youth camp with ELIX in Athens, July 2016 (Photo credit: Eleni Gazi, President of ELIX)

This month in Athens, PYE worked with refugee communities for the first time. With partner ELIX, devoted to active promotion of voluntary service and civic engagement in Greece and beyond, PYE led a special practitioner training (see gallery below) followed by a pilot youth camp for refugee children, six to 12 years of age. The training prepared a passionate team of ELIX facilitators and volunteers who are now leading a summer-long series of youth camps, full of creative expression, arts empowerment activities, and precious opportunities for play.

Isabel Ferreira, an ELIX volunteer from Portugal says of the youth camps, which are taking place in an Athens school, “Five hours takes all your energy and transforms it into a fulfilled heart. This school serves the exact purpose of giving these children a free environment to be creative, explore, make friends, and learn.”

According to UNHCR (The UN Refugee Agency) data from July 2016, there have been almost 160,000 refugee arrivals in Greece so far this year and 38% of them are children. Isabel says, “I see miracles every single day here. Knowing that so many of the refugees are children, it increases even more my sense of urgency towards these people. The opportunity cost of having these refugees stuck here is too high to be human.”

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One Love Youth Camp Returns to Jamaica!

Jamaican Youth Come Together to Celebrate Bob’s Vision of Peace & Love

One Love Youth Camp drumming sessionThis week, over 50 young people from across Kingston and St Ann will come together at the One Love Youth Camp to ignite their creative skills and promote Bob Marley’s vision of peace, love and social equality. The camp takes place in Bob’s home parish of St Ann, and is the result of a sweet partnership between the Bob Marley Foundation, Partners for Youth Empowerment (PYE) and ice cream makers Ben & Jerry’s.

The One Love Youth Camp returns for its third installment, to give young people of Jamaica the chance to stir up their own take on Bob Marley’s most iconic songs, and learn how to use music, dance and arts to respond challenges in their lives and break down barriers. The camp is facilitated by 25 local teachers and facilitators, who have been through an intensive Creative Facilitation training process that gives them the skills and resources to use the arts to help young people to reach their full potential.

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Creative Community Tip: Lead with Success

Positive note can start workshop on right footWhether you are opening a program or need to address challenging issues with a group, start on a positive note. This builds a field of good feeling that gives participants the courage to stretch themselves or embark on dealing with difficult issues.

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Empathy Shines in First Italy Workshop

IMG_7425With partner Elisa Sednaoui Foundation (ESF), PYE recently took the Creative Community Model to Italy for the first time! After a Creative Facilitation training for adult staff, we helped run an incredible ESF Creative Learning Workshop for 140 diverse youth.

Workshop facilitators, including PYE Lead Facilitator Silvia Giovannoni Webster and freelance dance artist Julia Pond, were amazed by the deep level of sharing and increased emotional awareness shown by the young people. Julia observed that youth seem to have limited opportunities to talk about their inner life, despite strong families ties. Continue reading

IndigenEYEZ: Healing Trauma with Joy and Connection

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A moment of connection at an IndigenEYEZ training

“IndigenEYEZ is medicine for relationships,” says Program Director Kelly Terbasket. IndigenEYEZ is also a PYE partner, and one of the most powerful applications of our Creative Community Model that we’ve seen.

After more than 20 years managing community projects, Kelly co-founded IndigenEYEZ to heal First Nations communities by inspiring an intergenerational legacy of well-being among Aboriginal people in BC, Canada and elsewhere. Kelly has Syilx and European roots, and lives in her family’s ancestral home in the south Okanagan Valley.

Kelly explains what drives her: “I feel and have lived the results of colonization and residential schools. I experience the fragmentation of communities, families, and nations on a daily basis.” Continue reading

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